I took a break. I had a book to write, after all, and there’s only so much writing one can do in a day. Just last week, I turned in my manuscript–all 90,000 words of it. So, that’s what I’ve been working on for the last six months, and during the next few weeks, I’ll be doing my fair share of editing, but I’m basically back and ready to blog.
And if you’ve followed my story, you know that I landed an agent and a book contract with Random House via email from Argentina. I still have not had a single phone conversation with my agent or editor (trying to keep it that way–seeing if I can do this whole thing virtually) but things have gone very, very smoothly.
I have loved every minute of writing this book. I’m especially grateful to the many, many experts, students and parents who shared their stories and encouragement. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
I thought I’d have those dreaded writer’s block days or times when I wondered why I was bothering at all. As it turns out, I didn’t have any days like that at all the entire time I was in Argentina writing. The only time I had a meltdown was when I came back to the US for a visit (my family has converged in Portland, Oregon for the summer) and walked into Powell’s bookstore. I’d had the good fortune of having only a couple of tiny little English bookstores in Buenos Aires, so I never once walked into a mammoth Barnes & Noble and wondered if anyone would ever find–let alone read or buy–my book. That only happened once I came to the US in June, so I consider myself lucky.
But I’m glad I’ve had this chance to be back in the US for a while, because I’ve had some interesting conversations wtih parents of high school and college students. Here are some comments I’ve heard:
“She doesn’t know what she wants, but she picked a major just to have something to put on her diploma when she graduates.”
“My son won’t be going to college. He decided to work instead. College costs too much and we just can’t afford those huge tuition payments. He looked at community college but figured he could do better just getting a local job and trying to get promoted.”
“My daughter graduated from college last spring, and has not been able to find a job this summer. She is home, depressed and worried about her college loan payments, which she has to start paying this fall. She thought about going to grad school, but it’s too late to apply for this fall. I found her a job working in my office from September, but she’s not happy about it. I don’t know what to tell her. This is just how life is.”
“Oh, I think it is so important for kids to go abroad. We’ve been taking our kids on vacations to Mexico and Europe for years. It really gives them a global perspective, and I’m sure that colleges will look at that two-week house-building experience in Mexico City last summer as a big plus on their college applications. Everybody knows that universities are looking for students who have been abroad.”
“Don’t talk to me about saving money! It’s just not possible if you have kids in college. All you can do is bite the bullet and pay the bills. It makes me ill if I think about it, so I don’t. Instead, I focus on the fact that you can never go wrong investing in a college education.”
Oh. My. God. It just goes on and on.
The parents and students I have talked to –in person and via email–seem completely unaware of the fact that they have all kinds of options, that they don’t have to spend a lot, and that it is advantageous to do things differently. Honestly, I am stunned. I thought that people were catching on and if anything, I worried that the info in the book would become common knowledge by the time it gets published. No chance of that happening, apparently. I guess I have been immersed in a world in which people KNOW about how to do college inexpensively, how to study abroad for less than $5,000 a semester (and get full credit), how to find work abroad (or at least learn what it takes to be considered “global”) and how to skip right over high school graduation in order to leapfrog over the others and blast forward into deeper, more meaningful and relevant educational experiences.
Bottom line: people are afraid. Very afraid. They are worried about debt, about the economy, about what a global education means, about their kids ever finding a decent job. Some college students are dropping out due to a lack of access to loans (and parents’ funds running out). Others are opting to go right into grad school to sort of “ride out” the bad economy, not realizing that they’ll have an additional $50,000 in debt and there’s no guarantee that that master’s in whatever will actually translate into more income or even better job possibilities.
When we’re worried, we do what others do. This is a recipe for disaster, and precisely why we need to wake up and start doing things DIFFERENTLY.
I with I could hand you a copy of my book right now–but I can’t. It won’t be out until spring. Dang the election! It pushes all books back a few months as publishers don’t want to launch a book when everyone is distracted by campaigns and results. Until then, I’ll share with you whatever I can on this blog (I’m restricted to some degree because of my book contract) and cheer you on.
Questions? Send them to me at maya (at) massageyourmind (dot) com and I’ll see if I can respond here.